Tips for “Surviving” Holiday Parties
At this time of year, it seems that people often fit into one of two categories — those who enjoy attending holiday parties and those who don’t. Here are a few communication tips to use at these parties, especially company parties:
Tip #1: To help you remember someone’s name, repeat the name as soon as you hear it — ‘Nice to meet you, Sandi.’
Tip #2: If you forget someone’s name (and most of us do), confess as soon as you realize you’ve forgotten it. We often forget the name in the first few minutes. The longer we wait to ask, the more awkward it is to ask. Keep in mind, the other person has probably already forgotten your name, too.
Tip #3: Make others feel important by using one of the techniques I teach in our workshops. I call it ‘The You Factor.’ Be aware of the number of times you use the words ‘I’ and ‘me’ and instead increase your use of the word ‘you.’ For example, if someone tells you about his or her work, rather than responding with a statement about your work, say something like, ‘Sue, you really have an exciting job.
How did you get into that field?’
Tip #4: If you wish to end a conversation, use the ‘Compliment, Need, Compliment’ technique: ‘Mike, you’ve really done some great things this year. I need to say hello to some other people. I really enjoyed chatting with you’ or ‘Richard, thanks for telling me about your family.
I need to let you mingle with others. Again, I enjoyed getting to know you better.’ Other needs might include using the restroom, getting something to eat, or refreshing your drink.
Reprinted with permission from David Greenberg’s Simply Speaking, Inc. 1-888-773-2512 or 404-518-7777 http://www.simplyspeakinginc.com